Going Solo as a Woman
There are important perspectives on a woman's journey when she moves beyond partnership and goes solo, defining her identity and purpose in life without depending on being a partner or mother. A woman's journey beyond partnership is marked by both challenges and opportunities. It is a journey that requires courage, self-insight, and, if possible, support from like-minded people. But by embracing her independence and rediscovering her wildness and creative power, she can create a meaningful life without being bound by the longing to go deep with a partner.
The Solo Journey as a Conscious Choice
Choosing the Solo Journey: Some women consciously choose to avoid partnerships, not necessarily because of trauma, but because they recognize that the relationship between man and woman can be too complex and energy-consuming.
The Soul's Calling: There may be an inner voice or a "soul's calling" that guides the woman towards a different path than partnership.
Energy and Consciousness in Relationships: Being in a relationship in modern times requires great effort to create balance and awareness. Without conscious work, the relationship can become chaotic and draining.
Alternative to Partnership: Some women are here to carry out another mission, one that is demanding and which a partnership would interfere with.
Raising Sexuality: For women who consciously choose the solo journey, it can be beneficial to transform sexual energy into other uses.
Clarification and Fulfillment: Raising sexuality requires a clear decision and typically that the woman has explored and lived out her sexuality in various forms and has reached a point where it is no longer a driving force.
Sexuality as a Distraction: If the woman is clear that she does not want a partnership, sexuality and fantasies about a relationship can become distractions from her real purpose.
Challenges on the Journey
Pressure from Society: Women often experience pressure from society to prioritize the needs of others over their own, especially in relation to family life and partnerships.
Fear and Insecurity: Moving beyond partnership can trigger fear of loneliness, insecurity about one's identity, and doubt about the ability to create a meaningful life alone. Women often seek validation and affirmation in relationships, and it can be scary to have to find that strength and confidence within.
The Inner Critic: Women often have a sharp inner critic that can amplify insecurity and doubt as they try to define themselves outside of the relationship.
Lack of Role Models: There may be a lack of role models for women who choose a life independent of traditional relationship patterns.
Opportunities on the Journey
Liberation and Independence: Going beyond the relationship provides an opportunity to free oneself from expectations and limitations that may be associated with being a partner and mother. The woman can create a life that better suits her own values, interests, and life ambitions.
Self-Development and Growth: Outside the dynamics of the relationship, the focus can be shifted to personal development and growth. Space is created to explore talents, pursue dreams, and strengthen self-confidence and independence.
New Forms of Community: Moving beyond the relationship does not have to mean loneliness. The woman can create strong relationships with girlfriends, family, and other women who share her interests and values.
Rediscovery of Wildness: A woman's wildness - her creativity, strength, and authentic self - is a powerful energy that is often suppressed in the relationship. Going beyond the relationship can give the woman freedom to rediscover and integrate this wildness.
The Power of Women's Communities
Support and Inspiration: Communities with other women can provide support, inspiration, and strength. It is important to have a network of women who can listen, understand, and share experiences.
Sharing Experiences: By sharing experiences and challenges, women can learn from each other and find new ways to manage life's complexities.
Collective Power: Standing together with other women can create a sense of collective power and solidarity, an important resource when the woman encounters resistance in her longing to live a life independent of traditional norms.
Sources: Conversations with my imaginary daughter by Mette Miriam Sloth.
